Adjourning

Adjourning

When you have worked with a group of people for so long you all become family, and it is like you have known each other for years. This is what I had when I worked at Wal-Mart, and this is what also made it so hard to want to leave. I felt like I had known these people all my life, and we were always down to help one another, no matter what we were doing, if someone needed help, we helped.  Although I did not like the job much, the people and the customers made the job worth-while. When I moved onto another position it was very bitter-sweet. 

When working with a high-performing group, it is very hard to leave because everyone on the team is doing their job and holding their wait. You don't know what you may get when you work with another group or partner. They drive may not be like the drives that you are used to. If all this is no established in the beginning, you will end up pulling all the weight.

When you have to leave a group that has established norms, this is hard because you have became very accustomed to working with a certain group and you all have worked good together effectively and built a solid foundation of trust. But once you have to leave and move on to another group, you have to develop a new group all over again with new attitudes aboard.

Adjourning from groups have taught me the importance of keeping in touch with those who you have met alone the way. Some I have regrets, and for some I do not. The crew at Wal-Mart I still keep in touch with a few because I live locally and I see them whenever I am shopping in the store. When it comes to undergrad, I made so many colleagues and my professors were so helpful, I regret not keeping in touch with those who mean the most. There are some undergrad Child and Family development majors in which I still communicate with through facebook, but my one friend who I built a bond with slipped through my hands, and that I regret.

When adjourning from the Master's program, I believe that it will be bitter-sweet because reading the blogs and discussions have gave us all a bond, and in order to keep this bond, we must reach out to one another. When adjourning it helps to bring one another closer together on a professional and personal level, which is needed to help one another.

Abudi, G. (2010). The five stages of team development: A case study. Retrieved from http://www.projectsmart.co.uk/the-five-stages-of-team-development-a-case-study.html

Conflict Resolution

Conflict Resolution

There was a situation that arised at work a few weeks ago which lead to me and another coworker having disagreements about the matter. It went as far as the teacher walking out of the classroom on me and leaving me alone with the kids. The supervisor was not there at the time to resolve the conflict so it was left to us to do so on our own, which of course did not end well. If we both would have used a more NVC approach such as empathetic listening it would not have been so much of a big conflict. Another approach would have been that we both quit trying to out talk one another and listen carefully we could have came to an agreement to agree to disagree and left it at that. The following Monday, she came to school and apologized to me and me to her for we both were wrong and we realized that things got carried away way to fast and we could have just agreed to disagree. 

I as a Communicator

When I reviewed my results and the results of others, nothing really surprised me, but what did surprise me is that we all agreed that I am a good listener. The reason that this was a shocker, because I did not think that my husband would rate me as a good listener being that he always says that I never listen to him. Learning about my different aspects of communications, my strong points and weak points, it helped me to learn where I need to be at both professionally and personally with my communication skills so that I can help my families and children. 

The two insights that I learned this week came from the listening style assessment and communication anxiety assessment. I have learned that I am a good listener who puts to much trust in others, which does not always mean that I will get the same in return. This makes more conscious of who I should trust to protect myself. The communication anxiety assessment enlightened me on the importance of being confident around children, families, and colleagues so that they can trust me. 

Rubin, R. B., Palmgreen, P., & Sypher, H. E. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures: A sourcebook. New York: Routledge.

Rubin, R. B., Rubin, A. M., Graham, E. E., Perse, E. M., & Seibold, D. R. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures II: A sourcebook. New York: Routledge.